August 11, 2018 A younger female friend and I were at lunch chatting about different generations. I’m a boomer; she is a millennial.
She complained about the men she dates being passive. “Where are the alpha males?” she asked. “Have domineering women scared the alpha male out of existence?”
“I hope not,” I replied, “I love my alpha male. He’s from the silent generation.
The conversation makes me think about how passive many young men seem these days. Are they immature? Don’t they understand that taking the lead and doing it properly gives them a shot at the prize? Do you need a cattle prod to wake them up?
Women prefer strong men, not selfish buffoons. They want someone who makes plans, treats them in a special way and lets them know they are not an option. They want a man who is assertive, not aggressiveness. One who knows who he is and exudes confidence, not doubt.
Editor’s note: Strong women prefer alpha males (not to mention flowers).
Millennial women (who are less passive than ever) outnumber alpha males. Many, like my friend are frustrated. They crave men with initiative. “What’s with men,” she asked, “who sit at home and watch television but won’t take me to a movie?”
A male with strong traits can hit the jackpot. Strong women have to deal with a ‘Passive Man Epidemic.’ They swoon when they come across an active male––there might be a chance for a relationship that has a compatible pace.
MEN, PAY ATTENTION: If a woman likes you, she probably wants to see you this weekend. WARNING: Don’t wait until Friday to ask about her weekend plans. Make plans in advance, (think Wednesday) in fact, stop reading and call her now. Come across sexy, assertive and mature. You will be amazed by what happens. Strong women want to feel important. Treat her as a priority and a relationship may bloom. The best relationships stem from security and confidence.
FINAL WARNING: Stop playing it cool, or hard to get. That doesn’t work any more. You are not in high school when girls were attracted to that sort of behavior, women aren’t. Act laid-back and say ta-ta to your chances. When you call, an alpha male may answer.
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August 11, 2018 Hey, have I got a story for you. We all enjoy good stories; every culture uses them to communicate.
I’ll never forget the day my two-year-old granddaughter hopped up on the couch next to me and said, “Grandpa, read me a story. I’ll help you with the words.” She couldn’t read but if I tried to fool her with a few phony details she was all over me.
From childhood on up good listeners stay tuned, eager to know more about the journey as it unfolds. Keep their attention engaged and their imagination active.
Story telling is the way individuals passed down beliefs and experiences from generation to generation. Good ones engage various parts of the brain, draw people in, grab their emotions, evoke empathy with the characters and make them visualize the various elements.
Storytelling is a valuable tool in the business world. But you’d better know your audience. A lengthy tale with a great payoff will lay an egg when told to an audience of button pushers who can’t sit through a 30-second commercial.
Short bursts of attention-getters are a powerful way to drive a point home. If your delivery resembles the narration in an army training film you’ll be drowned out by snoring.
Here are a few points to consider when you craft your message.
Use a conversational tone and common words to help your audience relate to you as a person. Come across friendly, put the audience at ease.
Understand what the audience values and what they don’t so you will tell the right story. Find common ground with them, it helps create empathy. If an audience relates to the story you are telling they will be all ears.
Sell your story. Believe what you are saying, otherwise you risk genuineness. People don’t necessarily buy a product, service, or idea. They buy the story that’s attached to it. Focus on what the audience needs.
Make the audience the hero. You’ll be their hero.