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Bob Cayne

THINGS I'VE LEARNED

TRUTH, JUSTICE AND

THE AMERICAN WAY

​​​​​​​​​July 6, 2018  Words of wisdom from an old Andy Rooney column. Enjoy.
I've learned....
That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.
I've learned....
That when you're in love, it shows.
I've learned ....
That just one person saying to me, 'You've made my day!' makes my day.
I've learned....
That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.
I've learned....
That being kind is more important than being right.
I've learned....
That you should never say no to a gift from a child.
I've learned....
That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in any other way.
I've learned....
That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.
I've learned....
That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
I've learned....
That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.
I've learned....
That life is like a roll of toilet paper.
The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
I've learned....
That money doesn't buy class.
I've learned....
That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
I've learned...
That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
I've learned....
That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
I've learned....
That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.
I've learned....
That love, not time, heals all wounds.
I've learned....
That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.
I've learned....
That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.
I've learned....
That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.
I've learned....
That life is tough, but I'm tougher.
I've learned....
That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.
I've learned....
That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.
I've learned....
That I wish I could have told my Mom that I love her one more time before she passed away.
I've learned....
That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.
I've learned....
That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
I've learned....
That when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, you're hooked for life.
I've learned....
That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.
I've learned....
That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

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​​​​​​​July 6, 2018 I’m disturbed by a trend in the social justice movement where science, data, facts, and reason are sacrificed for ideology. Are they someone else’s or your own? Do you know your own? Do you stand for certain principles and when strung together do they form an ideology? 
In therapeutic sessions it’s helpful to ask patients, “What is your world view?” Some don’t know if they have one. Others are ‘social justice junkies’ who need to withdraw before healing can begin. 
The process gives therapists a starting point to understand a patient’s perspective i.e. ‘I’m treated unfairly’ or ‘my opinions aren’t respected.’ Often there are reasoning flaws. If you support social justice, and your passion affects your reasoning, you are likely to do more harm to the movement than good.
There are facts to rebut many social justice fallacies I find most common outside of therapy. These misconceptions are independent of politics and religion––people throughout the political and religious spectrums commit them and no group is immune to them. 
I remain fair when dealing with issues of religion, politics, and family...at least in the sense that I am conscious of my personal feelings and do not factor them into my evaluations. My only enemy is un-reason. I have no problem with a full-on, intellectual assault of bad ideas and arguments. I am good at squabbles, but reject hysteria. For example:
Overextended Outrage. This is poor thinking where statistically rare cases are implied to be the norm or the trend––without evidence––for the purpose of expressing or inciting outrage toward an entire group. That’s like saying cold weather causes colds when it doesn’t. Bacteria and not washing your hands spreads germs; blaming the weather isn’t reasonable, logical or factual. 
Political Correctness. Assuming or admitting that the ideas of two or more groups or individuals are in accordance with established norms is a false over-statement. Reaching such conclusions is a myth––the information is flawed. 
Identity Fallacy. Basing one's argument on their social class, generation, ethnic group, gender or sexual orientation when the strength of the argument is independent of identity. 
Traitorous Critics. Calling anyone critical of ideas not held by you a bigot, racist or Nazi sympathizer says more about you than about them. Hey, there’s an old saying: I’m rubber you’re glue.  Repeat when necessary. 
There are others that surface in my worldview, but these are the most common. Keep them in mind when you stand up for your beliefs and principals. Remember, the more unreasonable the argument, the more damage you do to Superman’s beliefs. He stood for “Truth, Justice and the American Way.” Who can argue with that?


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